Polyamory is the practice, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the consent of all partners involved. It has been described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy. What is unique about polyamory is that essentially, it is built on love and emotional connection, not just sex as often misconstrued. That is what somehow differentiates it from an ‘open relationship’ which is predominantly laid on sexual ground.
You may be wondering why we are talking about this now… well, it is increasingly common that millennials no longer want to nurture solid relationships so many are opting for unconventional relations. Just like with employment, most are choosing the easy and flexible way out i.e. the gig economy as opposed to the routine 8 – 5 jobs. Getting bored much, huh?
People say that you can’t have your cake and eat it too. Those people must have never heard of polyamory. Times are rapidly changing when it comes to relationships and their jurisdictions and there are so many different types of relationships for people to consider if monogamy isn’t your thing. For as long as your relationship is consensual and makes you happy, you shouldn’t be bullied into thinking it isn’t valid.
Should you consider polyamory, here is what you should know;
Being polyamorous doesn’t make you loose/ a whore or a slut. In no way, shape, or form does being polyamorous make you a slut. There is a popular misconception that people who believe in a polyamory just want to be able to sleep around without attachments or accountability.
People in polyamorous relationships don’t love each other less than the other. Just because they allow their partner to also be in a relationship with someone else doesn’t mean they don’t love them just as much as you love your significant other in a monogamous relationship.
Polyamorous people still get jealous. A lot of people think that because someone can date more than one person and vice versa, jealousy isn’t an issue. However, polyamorous couples still deal with jealousy within their relationship and so it is advisable to partake into this arrangement when you can work around jealousy. We all know it is unhealthy in whatever aspect of life it manifests.
Cheating can still happen in a polyamorous relationship. Just because they’re in a relationship with more than one person doesn’t mean that they’re free to hook up with whomever happens to walk by. Your partners should be aware of all the other people you are hooking up with, or else it’s cheating.
Boundaries still exist within the relationship. If anything, the boundaries in a polyamorous relationship are much stricter than in a monogamous relationship because they have to have such clear communication and set rules for everyone involved.
People don’t become polyamorous because they’re unhappy. Many people think that people who are polyamorous have become this way because they were unhappy with their monogamous relationship and thus sought out something more. If anything, it is those happy within themselves that have a lot to share with others.
Polyamory isn’t for everyone, and no one expects you to drop everything and change the way you live your life. But if you were curious about what goes on in a polyamorous relationship, there you go! Be safe and do not do anything you wouldn’t want to do because of social pressures or bandwagon.